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My 3 year old son is not potty trained. I have tried everything! My friends children were potty trained at 2! I was told that my son has to be potty trained to attend preschool. I have run out of ideas. HELP!
Potty training can be a mystery because each child is different! It is absolutely NORMAL for a 3 year old boy to not be fully potty trained. Although I typically don’t like to stereotype, boys generally DO take longer to potty train than girls. It is common for a child to not be fully trained until 4 years of age. Try not to compare your potty training experience with other moms because each child’s developmental is different. Some common ideas to encourage potty training are:
- Take child potty every 1-2 hours.
- Put child in REAL underwear and only let him wear pull ups at night.
- Throw some Cheerios in the toilet bowl and teach your child to aim.
- Potty sticker chart.
- Take your child to the bathroom when older, potty trained siblings need to go potty. This might encourage your child to be like big sister/brother.
- If you stay at home, you can try to let your child go without underwear so he has no choice but to use the potty. Although, he will have some accidents on the floor!
The important thing to remember is to not let yourself get frustrated, upset, or mad at your son if he has a potty accident. Parents who PUSH their child that is obviously not developmentally ready to potty train (usually seen when a child is only 2 years of age). will not speed up the potty training process, in fact, it might slow it down! A parent can usually determine when their child is truly ready to potty train. A child who shows no interest and has never showed an interest in potty training might not be ready. Generally, a 3 year old should be ready to potty train. If you are concerned about his developmental abilities than please talk to a pediatrician about your concerns.
If your preschool requires your child to be potty trained ready, talk to the director/teachers about what stage your child is at in the potty training process. Most directors/teachers usually have a process to deal with children who are not fully potty trained.